A List of “Men’s Rights” Issues That Feminism Is Already Working On
Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their “traditional” marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be lonely and we do not hate “nice guys.” The idea that certain people are inherently more valuable than other people because of superficial physical attributes is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don’t is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of any gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it’s unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy.
Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you.
If you really care about those issues as passionately as you say you do, you should be thanking feminists, because feminism is a social movement actively dedicated to dismantling every single one of them. The fact that you blame feminists—your allies—for problems against which they have been struggling for decades suggests that supporting men isn’t nearly as important to you as resenting women. We care about your problems a lot. Could you try caring about ours?"
stop unfollowing me this is my only source of self esteem
i’d like tumblr to collectively get over the fact that children’s shows teach lessons since that’s primarily the point of them
ugh just grosses me out like
pseudo-progressive but actually just using gay people, once again, as a plot twist
oh you thought Disney didn’t have openly gay characters? PLOT TWIST! They did for one second and also you’d never know it if you didn’t have a conversation for someone who supposedly works at Disney and also you need to ignore the woman who could easily be their mom so it’s very open to interpretation
wow guys how did you NOT notice that super obvious inclusion!!!! Geez it’s almost like you were expecting something on par
We need to stop with these privileged statements.
"Everything happens for a reason"
"Every bump in the road is merely a lesson"
"The Universe has a plan for each and every one of us"
It’s easy to say this shit when the worst thing that happened to you in a week is you got a paper cut or had to work overtime, however to ignore the severity of some so-called “lessons”- you know, like hunger, poverty, slavery, genocide, and rape-can be really offensive.
If classifying painful life experiences as lessons is your way of coping with them, your way of hanging on and having hope, that’s fine. I just feel like we need to understand that for others, it can be extremely disturbing/insulting to insinuate that some divine being wanted your race to become slaves for some cosmic reason, or to think that the Universe wanted you to be raped. It’s really rude, let’s start reconsidering these things please.
I always get a bit bothered by things like that :/
I once talked with someone who said “that’s just the great divine teaching you to be strong”
I don’t talk with that person anymore